You will find that when it comes to busy families today, there seems no room for the family to become a support system. The family life today seems to be torn apart. The mom needs to work and the father needs to work to support the family financially. This may or may not be the reason for a loose family, but the truth is that the whole family should come together on the time that they do have. Instead of allowing the kids go out during the weekdays, make them stay home and have a family time day so that you can keep your family structure tight.
Just because everyone has a different schedule doesn’t mean that you can’t have the family close knit. You can have a tight family, however, it is going to take some time and planning to help you to smooth the family cracks. You are going to have to consider that everyone needs to have their own time to do things and everyone needs their friend time, but make sure that there is family time. Here are some tips on how you can keep the family moving in the right direction.
As a parent, you need to stress how important it is for everyone to be home for dinner. Sometimes it won’t always work out because one or other will need to be at work or be at football practice and so on. The key is to make sure that most of the family is together for dinner most of the time. You will need to set down some rules on how long the kids can be out with their friends and stress the family time at dinner time is important to you. Instead of taking this time to be silent or watch TV, you need to make the family sit at the table and talk about their day. Allow everyone to get a chance.
Also, you are going to have to work hard on being a good parent yourself. This means you can’t just push your kids or mate away. You need to make sure that the lines of communication are always open. When it comes to the kids, you need to make sure that they trust you and feel that they can come to you at anytime. You need to stop judging them and start guiding them. This can be hard, because sometimes you have to allow your child to fail and learn for themselves, however, at the end of the day they know that they can come to you. It is very important that you think about their growing feelings. It’s hard to be a kid, especially in those awkward years, but you need to keep the lines of communication open so when they are teens and in trouble they know you will help support them.
You will also want to give family night a chance. This means that you spend real time as a family. This could be on Saturdays when everyone is home or even after school and work. You will need to spend at least two or three hours together just doing whatever. You can go to the movies, go bowling, play a game, and so on. You need to have the family time so that you can work on building trusting relationships with everyone in your family.
It is very important that you understand the difference between family success and martial success. It is important for the children that divorced parents still stay active in each others lives by being able to share time with the children and be just as civil to each other.